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ගෘහස්ත ප්‍රචන්ඩත්වය


ගෘහස්ත ප්‍රචන්ඩත්වය ලෝකයටම පොදු දෙයක්.එහෙත් බොහෝ රටවල නීති මගින් සහ දියුණු සමාජ පුරැදු මගින් එය අවම වී තිබෙනවා. එහෙත් ආසියානු උප සංස්කෘතිය තුල බොහෝවිට තවමත් ගෘහස්ත ප්‍රචන්ඩත්වය දකින්න පුලුවන්. ශ්‍රී ලංකාවෙ දිනපතා පුවත්පතක් බැලුවොත් තේරැම්ගන්න පුලුවන් මේ තත්වය කොයිතරම් නම් අපේ රටේ තියනවද කියල. මේ ලිපිය ඔබට වැදගත් වේවි ගෘහස්ත ප්‍රචන්ඩත්වය අවම කරගන්නට

Domestic violence against women:

Recognise patterns and seek help Domestic violence is a serious threat for many women. Know the signs of an abusive relationship and how to leave a dangerous situation. Your partner apologizes and says the hurtful behavior won't happen again — but you fear it will. At times you wonder whether you're imagining the abuse, yet the emotional or physical pain you feel is real. If this sounds familiar, you might be experiencing domestic violence.

Recognize domestic violence

Domestic violence — also called intimate partner violence — occurs between people in an intimate relationship. Domestic violence can take many forms, including emotional, sexual and physical abuse and threats of abuse. Men are sometimes abused by partners, but domestic violence is most often directed toward women. Domestic violence can happen in heterosexual or same-sex relationships. Abusive relationships always involve an imbalance of power and control. An abuser uses intimidating, hurtful words and behaviors to control his or her partner.

* Calls you names, insults you or puts you down

* Prevents or discourages you from going to work or school or seeing family members or friends

* Tries to control how you spend money, where you go, what medicines you take or what you wear

* Acts jealous or possessive or constantly accuses you of being unfaithful

* Gets angry when drinking alcohol or using drugs

* Threatens you with violence or a weapon

* Hits, kicks, shoves, slaps, chokes or otherwise hurts you, your children or your pets

* Forces you to have sex or engage in sexual acts against your will

* Blames you for his or her violent behavior or tells you that you deserve it

Pregnancy, children, family members and domestic violence Sometimes domestic violence begins — or increases — during pregnancy, putting your health and the baby's health at risk. The danger continues after the baby is born. Even if your child isn't abused, simply witnessing domestic violence can be harmful. Children who grow up in abusive homes are more likely to be abused and have behavioral problems than are other children. As adults, they're more likely to become abusers or think abuse is a normal part of relationships.

Break the cycle 

If you're in an abusive situation, you might recognize this pattern:

* Your abuser threatens violence.

* Your abuser strikes.

* Your abuser apologizes, promises to change and offers gifts.

* The cycle repeats itself.

The longer you stay in an abusive relationship, the greater the physical and emotional toll. You might become depressed and anxious, or begin to doubt your ability to take care of yourself. You might feel helpless or paralyzed. You may also wonder if the abuse is your fault — a common point of confusion among survivors of domestic abuse that may make it more difficult to seek help. Don't take the blame You may not be ready to seek help because you believe you're at least partially to blame for the abuse in the relationship.

Reasons may include:

* Your partner blames you for the violence in your relationship. Abusive partners rarely take responsibility for their actions.

* Your partner only exhibits abusive behavior with you. Abusers are often concerned with outward appearances, and may appear charming and stable to those outside of your relationship. This may cause you to believe that his or her actions can only be explained by something you've done.

* Therapists and doctors who see you alone or with your partner haven't detected a problem. If you haven't told your doctor or other health care providers about the abuse, they may only take note of unhealthy patterns in your thinking or behavior, which can lead to a misdiagnosis. For example, survivors of intimate partner violence may develop symptoms that resemble personality disorders.

* You have acted out verbally or physically against your abuser, yelling, pushing or hitting him or her during conflicts. You may worry that you are abusive, but it's much more likely that you acted in self-defense or intense emotional distress. Your abuser may use such incidents to manipulate you, describing them as proof that you are the abusive partner. If you're having trouble identifying what's happening, take a step back and look at larger patterns in your relationship. Then, review the signs of domestic violence. In an abusive relationship, the person who routinely uses these behaviors is the abuser. The person on the receiving end is being abused.